Knapps 10 Steps of a realationship

There are ten step of a relationship, whether it is going into a romantic relationship or getting out of one.  According to Professor Mark Knapp, initiating stage occurs when people meet and interact for the first time.  Most individuals are able to tell whether or not they are going to be into you, or vice versa.  The second stage is experimenting.  The experimenting stage is when individuals converse to learn more about each other.  The third stage is intensifying.  The intensifying stage is the state of relationship development when individuals move from being acquaintances to being close friends.  Next is the integrating stage.  The integrating stage is the relationship development when a deep commitment has formed and there is strong sense that the relationship has its own identity. Finally there is the bonding stage, where the relationship development when the partners publicly announce their commitment stage. Those are the stages of relationship development.  The first stage of Knapps relation dissolution is differentiating.  Differentiating is when you’re constantly finding differences in your partner, they become annoying.  Second, circumscribing this is when couples start to avoid one another in all forms of communication.  Stagnating is when you’re going through emotions that no longer interest or satisfy you. Then there is avoiding, this is when a couple wants your physically and emotionally separate from one another.  Lastly there is terminating, meaning the feelings are no longer there, therefore the relationship has ended.  Those were the stages of relationship dissolution.  Just as romantic relationships start to build, they sometimes come apart overtime.

Why do people decive? Why do I decive?

I believe most people deceive because they want to make a sticky situation better, and the only way they can achieve this is by telling people what they want to here.  Some lies benefit the hearer, compliments towards a friend’s outfit that you don't particularly care for is an example.  People tell white lies to get to know a person better, for instance you may lie about a place you have been just so you can sort of share that bond with someone.  Lies protect ones privacy. Nobody has to know your life, personal or not everyone should keep thier opinions and questions to themselves.  People tell lies to avoid confrontation with another person, if your friend wants to go to the movies and you don't you tell them you do, to make them happy. Telling a lie may even protect yourself from distress.  People have enough stress in their lives, they do not need anyone else causing anymore problems.  Lies can hurt someone for no reason, rumors are a big issue in high schools and middle schools.  Telling a lie is like bullying, it is not a correct way to handle a situation. Granted I'm not perfect, and I've deceived people in the past, at least I am able to admit that.  Everyone has their stages and whether or not they are mature enough to move past the stage of lying, and just be truthful is completely up to them.  I feel as if my generation especially if affected by lying. I hope one day this world will be a little more peaceful.

How Gender and Sex Affect Conflict

Let’s face it women and men are always going to have problems understanding one another.  As a woman I have to understand (though, it is difficult) how the male species functions.  Though sadly, men have to deal with us women who have mood changes, and things that men would never desire to have.  The phrase "men, can't live with them can't live without them" and vice versa are exactly true.  As human beings we cannot seem to get away from one another.  Men are easier going and laid back then woman are.  Most females like to know what is going on, and have a structured pattern on what is going on in her life.  I do not understand how men can go from beating each other up to being best friends overnight.  What I really do not understand is how girls and woman can be such nasty, crude creatures towards one another.  Women generally get along better with men and vice versa.  Body language is key in detecting conflict amongst sex and gender.  One tactic you may observe is a person being passive aggressive.  Passive aggressive is a pattern of behaving vengefully while denying that one has aggressive feelings.  Another tactic is a demand-withdraw pattern, in which a pattern of behavior, one party makes demands and the other party withdraws from the conversation. As completely different species we should really learn how to understand one better, but it is nearly impossible if every person is different. Humans are difficult to understand and with sex and gender playing into effect it makes life even more difficult to comprehend.

The Nature of Intimate Relationships

   Intimate relationships are what all humans inquire over their life spand.  Being intimate is not necessarily being romantic, but being emotionally connected on the same level.  Intimate relationships require deep commitment and a lot of attention.  Being committed towards one another shows each other that you have a desire to be with that person under any circumstances.  When a couple is on a committed level of their relationship it is too assuming that they want to have a future together. Intimate relationships foster interdependence, meaning if something was to happen to one person in the relationship it would affect both people.  Intimate relationships require continuous investment.  In order to have a healthy, stable relationship couples must make sacrifices for each other’s wants and needs.  Couples must invest one another’s time, money, and dedicated attention. Couples who are in a romantic relationship know exactly how much they are investing in the relationship. If couples put forth equal effort towards one another, the couple is most likely to be extremely happy and satisfied.  Intimate relationships spark dialectical tensions. Dialectical tensions are conflicts between two important but different wants and needs.  This happens with every couple.  No one is expected to be a happy step ford wife family.  All couples have issues that they have with one another; with good communication the two of you should be able to work things out.
There are three tensions that are likely to arise.  Autonomy VS Connection, Openess VS Closedness, Predictability VS Novelty. All of these tensions are likely to come up in your relationship at one point. Just remember communication is key.